Notes to EpisodeToday’s episode is a solo chat about self-disclosure, why we might overshare, and how to think about the right boundaries for us. As a clinical psychologist I have valued clear boundaries around self-disclosure, but practicing as a case manager can be a bit different. So this is a reflection on what feels safe, comfortable and necessary to share with our clients in the pursuit of maintaining a good therapeutic bond.
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1:00 Did I share too much?
1:10 Shabnam’s experience of sharing about parenthood at work
4:42 Self-disclosure as a positive
6:05 Definition of self-disclosure
7:37 The four types of self-disclosure
9:11 How self disclosure works in catastrophic injury work
12:10 Risks and pitfalls
15:41 Getting the balance right - a checklist
Go for the scars not the scabs
17:22 Be clear about whether risks are worth taking
18:03 Be brief and minimal
19:43 Subjective vs expert opinion
20:17 Consider your client’s values
5:36 "Self-disclosure is a really useful tool when done in a considered, thoughtful and judicious way."
11:57 "Personal disclosure may serve to humanize the professional in the client’s eyes."
13:10 "There’s a question - for whom am I sharing this information, them or me?"
16:37 "Unless a clear benefit to the client can be identified, self-disclosure should not be used."
22:05 "It’s better to use safe disclosure further down the line than unsafe self-disclosure earlier on the relationship in our desperation to build a good rapport with our clients."
Written and presented by Dr Shabnam Berry-Khan, Director of PsychWorks Associates
Editor: Emily Crosby Media